The Secret to High Performance and Fulfilment: Psychologist Daniel Goleman Explains the Power of Focus His interview with Chase Jarvis above offers a preview of its content - and a reminder that, as means of silencing chatter go, sometimes a podcast works as well as anything. Rituals are one way to do that.” Performing certain actions exactly the same way every single time gives you “a sense of order and control that can feel really good when you’re mired in chatter.” Kross goes into greater depth on the range of chatter-controlling tools available to us (“distanced-self talk,” for example, which involves perceiving and addressing the self as if it were someone) in his book Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. But “we can compensate for this feeling out of control by creating order around us. “When you experience chatter, you often feel like your thoughts are in control of you,” he says.

To those in need of a way to break free, Kross emphasizes the power of rituals. We keep thinking about that event over and over again.” When you’re inside them, such mental loops can feel infinite, and they could result in perpetually dire consequences in our personal and professional lives. It then ends, but in our minds, our chatter perpetuates it.

“It makes it incredibly hard for us to focus,” Kross says, and it can also have “severe negative physical health effects” when it keeps us perpetually stressing out over long-passed events. Despite being an invaluable tool for planning, memory, and self-control, our inner voice also has a way of turning against us.

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